Apparently, kids must not know sex exists
So, at some point this week on Sounds Like Canada, a woman was interviewed who is trying to encourage her 14 year old daughter's school to find high security site-blocking software to block things like Facebook because she had found her daughter in her home office looking at porn in the middle of the night, and then found out that sometimes the kids access porn from the school, and sometimes through Facebook - I'm not clear how they're accessing porn through Facebook, but that's not the point.
I'm not interested in debating the merits of that. Although, I think being horrified that a 14 year old is accessing porn is pretty funny, because I know a hell of a lot of people who were accessing porn when we were 14, we were just didn't have the internet to do it, so we were doing it by sneaking peeks at the smut our parents kept, and sharing that with other friends so that we could experience a variety of it. But like I said, not the point of this post.
This post is in reaction to something that someone who called in to respond to the story said. This woman spoke about how she was horrified when she found out that her 14 year old son was watching porn, that she hated the idea that he was learning about sex from an industry that spends so much time objectifying and belittling women.
Ummmm. Lady? Ummmm. Maybe the answer to that conundrum might be to, I don't know, say, teach your kid about sex from you, so that if he looks at porn (and really, come on, teenage boy, he's lookin' at porn, I mean, teenage girl probably is too, but this is specifically about a guy.) he has it contextualized. It sure as hell sounded like her response to finding his porn was to work really hard to keep him from being in a place where he could access it, but it didn't involve any kind of information about sex.
I mean, really, wouldn't finding out that your kid is looking at porn present you with the *perfect* opportunity to talk to them about sex? To explain why you're uncomfortable with the porn industry and to explain the ins and outs (no pun intended) of sex? Also, uh, lady, your kid is 14 and you haven't talked to him about sex yet? I mean, come on lady, there's a good chance that he's already had sex by now.
What I'm saying is sometimes people