the oddities of people

so, tonight i was at a 'stagette' type thing. well, not the kind you normally think of, basically the bride to be and the bridesmaids and a couple other people went out for drinks mostly. this is the season of weddings after all...

anyway, an interesting observation. i have a friend (who organised this for the bride to be) who constantly talks about herself. don't get me wrong. she's a very lovely woman, she'd be there for me in a heartbeat if i ever needed her too. she's generally a good person. you want to like her. you want to want to spend time with her. but i have to say, the constant chatter that is all about her, all all all about her, it gets a little tired. i realise this is rich coming from someone who has a blog that is, well, all about me. but you choose to come here and read, and hopefully find it interesting or amusing, or at least something that you can enjoy mocking. i'm (i hope) not all about me in person.

the other thing is, she has limited stories and she just recycles them. over and over and over again. and they pretty much all revolve around how guys flock to her, how everyone thinks she should be a model and how other women are jealous of her.

so, why is this coming up right now? well, 'cause my other friend who i came home with pointed out an interesting thing. she said "i wonder if sally (not her real name, the names have been changed to protect the innocent) is really insecure."

do you ever have things happen where you think "doh, why didn't i think of that?!?" this was one of those moments for me. generally i'm pretty observant about human behaviour and the like, somehow i missed this one completely. but it makes perfect sense.

now, the interesting thing about this is, she (likely) does this 'cause she's insecure, but in truth, it kind of pushes people away. i know people who don't like her because of it. so my question is, what is it about humans that 'causes such counter productive behaviour?